🌿“The Final Purge: When God Says, ‘Don’t Answer the Call’🌿
There’s a strange ache that comes when God starts closing the final door on a season we once prayed for.
It’s that tug of war between what our spirit knows and what our emotions still crave.
Lately, I’ve felt like God is doing one last purge — a holy separation — not to punish me, but to protect me. It feels like He’s testing whether I’ve truly learned the lesson. The same person who wounded me so deeply — the one who used love as a weapon and Scripture as a snare — keeps reaching out. And though I know better, part of me still answers the call.
That’s the thing about narcissistic abuse: it doesn’t just leave scars on your heart. It creates an emotional addiction. The cycle of chaos, comfort, rejection, and reconciliation becomes something your soul gets used to. You start mistaking familiarity for connection.
But God doesn’t call us to stay where He’s already delivered us from.
God’s Separation Is Never Cruel — It’s Surgical
In Isaiah 43:18-19, God says:
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up — do you not perceive it?”
When God removes someone, He’s not just asking you to walk away — He’s asking you to walk toward Him. The separation is the surgery. It cuts away the soul tie, the illusion, and the dependency that kept you stuck in emotional captivity.
And sometimes, He’ll test whether we’ve truly healed by allowing the phone to ring again.
Not to tempt us — but to see if we’ll trust Him.
Will we pick up what He already told us to put down?
Obedience Is the Doorway to Freedom
Every time I let that call go to voicemail, I feel Heaven applaud. It’s not about being cruel or heartless — it’s about being obedient. Because the same God who once said “stay still and pray” is now saying, “keep walking and don’t look back.”
There’s a moment in Genesis 19:26 that echoes in my spirit — when Lot’s wife looked back at what God had destroyed, she turned into a pillar of salt.
Why? Because her heart was still in a place God had already judged.
Sometimes, God will let us feel the pain of looking back so we’ll learn the peace of letting go.
Healing Doesn’t Mean You Don’t Miss Them
Healing doesn’t mean your heart stops caring. It means you care differently.
It means you stop trying to fix what God has already called finished.
It means you trade your emotional addiction for spiritual alignment.
God isn’t asking for perfection. He’s asking for surrender. He’s saying, “Daughter, I need you to close this door completely — because the next one can’t open until you do.”
Prayer
Father, I confess that my heart still struggles to let go.
I know You’ve called me to close this door, but part of me still aches for what was.
Help me to see this purge not as punishment, but as protection.
Give me the strength to silence the phone, to silence my own emotions, and to listen only to Your voice.
Teach me to walk away with peace, not guilt.
And remind me that You are not just the God who removes — You are the God who restores.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Reflection Questions
- What “calls” — literal or emotional — are you still answering that God has already asked you to ignore?
- What does obedience look like for you in this season of separation?
- How can you replace emotional addiction with spiritual connection this week?